Home
Resurgent - Steel-Toed Boots [entries|archive|friends|userinfo]
I've got soul but I'm not a soldier.

[ userinfo | livejournal userinfo ]
[ archive | journal archive ]

Steel-Toed Boots [May. 17th, 2006|06:47 pm]
Previous Entry Add to Memories Tell a Friend Next Entry
[Current Location |Casco Bay]
[mood | calm]
[music |You're Beautiful - James Blunt]

Steel-Toed Boots

Time:
Wednesday, 17 May 2006, 1800L (6PM).

South Portland, Maine - It had rained for days. The sun had finally broken through, warming us to near sixty degrees Fahrenheit. I was planning on driving the scenic, coastal route to the gym in Bath, aiming to arrive at 1900L (7PM) as the weight room emptied out.

I drove past a shoe store that advertised a sale, and pondering for a moment the near-heretical notion of purchasing something other than steel-toed work boots.

A small white car's emergency lights flashed just ahead. It had stalled in traffic at a busy intersection, blocking the right-hand lane. The drivers in front of me were selfishly but legally failed to allow the drivers trapped behind the disabled vehicle to merge. I let the first trapped vehicle go ahead - a bright blue Subaru. This created a zipper effect other drivers continued.

Wishing to turn right into the parking lot of a gas station and convenience store in order to safely park out of the way and then assist the disabled car’s driver, the Subaru I’d let through blocked my turn, its driver obliviously chatting away on his cell phone.

I’ve toyed with the idea of test driving a Subaru one day in order to determine if Subaru cars are slow or if it's just Subaru drivers. By the far end of the lot I was finally able to turn in, and circled my pick-up truck back to the nearer end so to approach the disabled car on foot.

I walked towards the passenger side of the white car. The driver, a very attractive young woman with long brown hair, spotted me and leaned over to shout "I’ve run out of gas". She was alone and coping, and obviously relieved to see help. She lacked the odour of nicotine addiction.

The light was red then, thus the drivers behind her were not laying on their horns. Her distressed denim skirt revealed very shapely legs, and I was glad to be wearing dark shades as my eyes might have lingered there a moment too long to be polite.

She had run out of gas some 100 yards short of the pumps just up hill. In fact it was likely the hill had done her in: on level ground what bit of gas she had in her tank would not have shifted rearwards. I’ve helped many people in similar dire straits, and hesitated only a moment after I noticed she was driving an automatic. In my subjective experience a standard transmission seems easier to push than an automatic. Also there was the small matter of the hill. Despite these challenges I was confident I could push her car up the hill and to the pumps.

Referring to the gas station and convenience store, she asked "Do you think they’ll loan me a gas can or something?"

Having experience in such matters, I answered "Not likely, though we could try. Or I could push you up the hill".

She hadn’t considered that, but then, why would she? I left the decision to her. I was there to help, not dictate. "We can do that?" she asked, surprised.

The light changed to green, and drivers laid on their horns straight away: no zippering here. I pointed to the lazy twit honking behind her, and curtly gestured that he should steer around us. He seemed shocked, but trapped in traffic he laid off his horn and sat there looking confused. Other drivers, however, kept on honking from the imaginary safety of their vehicles. When pushed I can be a muscular attitude problem not to be trifled with.

I returned my attention to the girl, a much prettier sight. "We can", I answered gently, adding "You’re a traffic hazard here. Just pop her into Neutral, and I’ll push". It always helps to remain calm in a situation, nor was I annoyed at her. To paraphrase Winnie the Pooh, I, too, have been a tight bear in a stuck place.

She complied instantly. I ran behind her car and caught it as it started to roll backwards down the hill, towards the wide-eyed punk behind her.

I felt chagrined: I should have been clearer in my instruction.

I placed my hands carefully, and dug in, glad for my steel-toed work boots. Cars are quite fragile, actually, and I did not want to damage her sheet metal. My boots gripped the rain soaked pavement well enough as I ignored the constant beeping and angry shouting and began pushing her vehicle forward up the hill.

This hill was steeper than I had anticipated. For a moment I thought of Sisyphus, and wondered "How much further?" I decided to think instead of Boxer, from George Orwell’s Animal Farm. "I will work harder", I told myself as a slogged my way up the hill, head down, pushing the car ahead of me.

The traffic behind us was held by a red light then but now we had traffic bearing in from our left, the honking and shouting coming from there. I glanced up to see no one was giving us quarter so neither did I - I pushed the car straight through, and to her credit the driver did not touch her brakes. Fifty yards to go, and a man ran up to help. Our driver yelled back as us "Thank you so much - both of you".

He was blond, older but fit, and I was glad for his help: with two of us pushing the task became light work. Able to raise my head up now, I saw the driver struggled with the wheel for a moment as we turned into the lot. She was unused to the lack of power steering, apparently, but handled it well.

Level at last, we walked her car to the pumps triumphantly. "Thanks for your help", I said to the man. "I was going to work-out", I joked ruefully.

"You won’t have to now", he grinned. His wife was waiting for him in their car at the parking lot. She gone ahead to wait for us after he had leapt out to our aid: Huzzah for him!

"Thank you both so much", the driver repeated to us near giddy with relief. She really was beautiful. I was suddenly aware that my now pumped muscles were bulging through my blue t-shirt, and shyly turned away.

"You’ll be all right now?" I asked her over my shoulder.

"Oh, yes", said she, crossing the lot to pre-pay for her gas. I insist on only use pre-pay stations as a last resort, and sparingly at that. I resent businesses that treat me as a criminal. Luckily, in Maine, this practice is relatively rare. The last time I stopped at a pre-pay pump, I pumped just one gallon - enough to get me to the next non-pre-pay station.

The man whom had helped was buckled in. "Thanks, again", I said to him as I walked past to my truck, observing "Most people would rather honk than help".

We waved to each other as his wife drove away, and I crossed the lot to my pick-up. I noticed one of South Portland’s finest had parked his cruiser in the lot to fetch a snack from inside the convenience store. The only legal way for him to have entered the lot was past us, likely when I was pushing alone and had my head down to the task.

That annoyed me some. I was reminded of the Rick Gaber’s quote:
"Overload the police with victimless crimes and other minutiae and eventually only creeps and bullies remain cops."
Overload the police with coffee and doughnuts and eventually...?

I’m not cruel. I could see the officer in question was not up to physical tasks, and I certainly would not expect him to hurt himself with muscular exertions like helping to push a car up a hill in traffic. I think he could have used his cruiser’s emergency lights to escort us through the intersection, though, and into the gas station! Not a thinker, that one.

The driver I’d helped was finishing pumping gas as I drove out of the lot. Thinking it rude to simply drive away, I rolled down my window and asked "Everything all right now?"

"Thanks to you", she beamed, "You’re a life-saver". I blushed just a little at her exuberant exaggeration. She was quite fetching, really. I’ve a rule about not taking advantage of other people’s gratitude, however, and that includes when I help beautiful young women.

She added "I loaned my car to a friend and they brought it back on empty...and here I am in a skirt". She was, indeed, wearing a skirt, and wearing it well. I’m suspect she didn’t want me to think her silly, but really, why would she care what I think about how she got into her predicament? What if I thought her easy to take advantage of then, or a poor judge of character? I wondered, too, if the "they" were a "he" friend or a "she" friend? Not my business, really. I can’t imagine such a girl being alone except by choice (or the lack there of).

"It’s happened to all of us some time or another", I reassured her. I didn’t think her silly at all; I think she simply got stuck with an empty tank. She’d likely have made it, too, were it not for that hill. "I hope your day get’s better now", I waved lamely as I drove away, cringing at my awkwardness. She beamed after me as if her day really was getting brighter. It had stopped raining, after all.

My steel-toed boots are staying: lesser shodding might have burst apart.
linkReply

Comments:
[User Picture]From: [info]vickyunleashed
2006-05-20 06:39 pm (UTC)

(Link)

Lovely. I hope you run into her again. Next time, ask her to join you for coffee. Or, tell her you're on your way to the gym -- anything to start a conversation.
[User Picture]From: [info]stealthdozer
2006-05-21 03:09 am (UTC)

(Link)

Wouldn't that be taking advantage of her gratitude?
Besides, I don't drink coffee 8P
[User Picture]From: [info]vickyunleashed
2006-05-21 03:38 am (UTC)

(Link)

Okay. Juice then. And no, that's not taking advantage of her gratitude. It's an offer to be friends.

Geez.
[User Picture]From: [info]stealthdozer
2006-05-21 04:50 am (UTC)

(Link)

Nohari: 66% of respondents whom I love think I’m inflexible.
There may be cause for that...
I like juice 8)
[User Picture]From: [info]vickyunleashed
2006-05-21 06:59 am (UTC)

(Link)

Do you want a woman or not? If you do, then at some point, you might need to flex just a little. If you see her again, then for goodness sakes, say something.
[User Picture]From: [info]stealthdozer
2006-05-21 07:35 am (UTC)

(Link)

Aye.
If I see her I will say "Hello".
[User Picture]From: [info]alaria_lyon
2006-05-21 01:56 pm (UTC)

(Link)

You're impossible.

If you like a girl, ask her out!!
[User Picture]From: [info]vickyunleashed
2006-05-21 07:10 pm (UTC)

(Link)

Men and women. Women and men. It would be so easy for me to keep on at you about this, but you know what? Now that I've given Michael my number, I have my cell phone in my pocket, knowing full well that I could use it to dial one of the four numbers he gave me last fall, and I don't have the guts to do it.
[User Picture]From: [info]alaria_lyon
2006-05-21 01:56 pm (UTC)

(Link)

No it's not taking advantage of her gratitude. It's taking advantage of you two meeting. She has a brain - let her use it, don't make decisions for her.
[User Picture]From: [info]vickyunleashed
2006-05-21 07:11 pm (UTC)

(Link)

Agreed at 1000 percent.
[User Picture]From: [info]stealthdozer
2006-05-22 04:37 am (UTC)

(Link)

don't make decisions for her
Point taken.
It was the ethics of the situation that concerned me.
[User Picture]From: [info]quietphilosophe
2006-05-22 07:37 pm (UTC)

(Link)

I can sympathize with this concern. I've often found myself hesitant to propose something more, fearing that her decision would be jaded with a sense of obligation. While Vicky and Alaria have a good point, I've known too many women that have told me in confidence that they've gone out with a guy out of a sense of obligation. I don't want to be one of those guys.

Still, props to you for being polite. It's a rarity these days, but that rarity is something that you and I are trying to combat.
[User Picture]From: [info]stealthdozer
2006-05-23 03:23 pm (UTC)

(Link)

Thanks, for that.
That other fellow lent a hand, too.
We are not alone.
I can think of several friends who would have done the likewise, or found some other way to help.
BFI: Brute Force & Ignorance.
Sometimes it works.
Sometimes.
[User Picture]From: [info]msdirector
2006-05-22 07:04 am (UTC)

(Link)

She added "I loaned my car to a friend and they brought it back on empty…and here I am in a skirt". She was, indeed, wearing a skirt, and wearing it well. I’m confident she didn’t want me to think her silly, but really, why would she care what I think about her or how she got into her predicament?

Did it occur to you that perhaps she was looking for a way to continue your acquaintance without being obvious about it? She as much as invited you to notice that she was wearing a skirt (and to notice the legs under it), and she obviously didn't want you to think that she was foolish enough to let her tank run dry. She wanted you to think well of her.

It seem to me that she was expressing her more than her appreciation. She was interested in at least trying to make conversation. You saved her alot of trouble, embarrassment and aggravation when no one else would. That says something nice about you. I think she thought so too.

You're overanalyzing. There was no question of ethics here. You didn't save her from drowning. You helped her out of traffic and saved her a walk to the gas station. Her appreciation was surely not so great that you could have taken advantage of it by asking to share a cup of coffee (or juice).

Relax, honey. We're all just people. It's okay to make friends. It doesn't obligate anyone to more than that. It's a simple chance for two people to talk and share a pleasant moment. Might it lead to something else. It might. But not if it never happens.

You can't win if you don't play...
[User Picture]From: [info]stealthdozer
2006-05-22 08:45 am (UTC)

(Link)

I'm not saying I was raised right...
...I'm just saying I was raised to remain anonymous when helping others.


Edited at 2008-09-28 08:06 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: [info]kyllaire
2009-03-14 04:20 am (UTC)

(Link)

good points.
[User Picture]From: [info]kyllaire
2009-03-14 04:26 am (UTC)

(Link)

I pushed a '76 Torino up a slight incline in Texas one very dark night.
It was fun. Wish I could still do that.
Oh wait.. the next day - after we were rescued by a lovely family who took us in for the night, took my husband to town to find a part and then put the part on, packed us a lunch, and generally earned our undying gratitude (they weren't there the next time we went through, though, sadly) - we were told that a huge alligator/crocodile (over 6 feet long) had been seen there several times. That made it not as much fun. O.O But it sure makes this a better story. :D
[User Picture]From: [info]kyllaire
2009-03-14 04:35 am (UTC)

(Link)

edit: many good points are expressed above.. but I decided, at a very young age, and after wrestling with much of what you've talked about, that it was a waste of people not to allow myself to be friendly with both sexes, and all ages of people. respect for all is always in order, and courtesy is too ... but wasting an opportunity to get to know someone nice (or just interesting) is, to me, too big a risk to take. I like people, many kinds of people, and many of them have been met when it wasn't the best time to meet them, perhaps, for them or for me; but many have taught me a lot and enriched my life tremendously, often serendipitously(sp?), and I'm glad I went ahead and got acquainted (with ALMOST every one!).